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Turn Opposition into Opportunity

How to Turn Opposition into Opportunity

Traumatic events, like emotional abuse, divorce, or infidelity, can either destroy us or make us better, wiser, and stronger. So, what determines which path you will take? Very simple – your thoughts. Dr. Lenne’ Hunt talks about how something as simple as what you think and believe, can turn opposition into opportunity.

How to Turn Opposition into Opportunity

In the vast landscape of personal growth and emotional well-being, there’s a fascinating concept emerging from the field of neuroscience. It suggests that our experiences and, more specifically, the thoughts we dwell on during these experiences have the remarkable power to shape our brains. Dr. Lynne’ Hunt from the Marriage Recovery Center brings to light the profound implications of this idea and how it can help us navigate even the most challenging aspects of life, such as abusive relationships. In this article, we’ll explore the notion that we can turn opposition into opportunity by harnessing the power of our thoughts and experiences to transform our minds and lives.

The Power of Mindset

Our minds are incredibly malleable and adaptable, and they have the capacity to rewire and strengthen themselves based on the thoughts we consistently focus on. This rewiring can lead our brains to gravitate towards those thoughts and pathways in the future. In essence, what we choose to dwell on can significantly influence the course of our lives. This insight underscores the importance of being mindful of our thoughts, especially in the face of traumatic experiences.

Transforming Trauma

Traumatic events can leave lasting scars, not only in the form of immediate emotional distress but also by instilling harmful messages about our self-worth, value, and character. These messages can come from direct verbal abuse or be implied through the actions of the abuser. Dr. Hunt acknowledges that trauma does mark us, but she also emphasizes that it doesn’t have to define us. It is possible to process the trauma, confront the lingering messages, and reshape our thoughts in a way that strengthens rather than weakens us.

Unpacking the Messages

One crucial step in turning opposition into opportunity is to identify and confront the messages that haunt us. By examining the messages that our minds naturally gravitate towards, we can take control of the narratives that shape our self-perception. These messages might involve derogatory names, accusations, or insinuations about our responsibility for the abuse. It’s essential to recognize that these are not the messages we want to take with us into the future.

Turning the Tables on Blame Shifting

One form of abuse that can have a lasting impact is “blame shifting.” During heightened conflicts or moments of anger, the abuser may try to shift the blame onto the victim, asserting that they are the cause of the abuse. These manipulative tactics can lead to a distorted self-perception, with the victim believing they somehow deserve the mistreatment they receive. Dr. Hunt strongly advises against internalizing such harmful messages. Instead, she encourages individuals to confront these messages and replace them with empowering beliefs.

The AFGO Concept

The Marriage Recovery Center’s founder, Dr. David Hawkins, introduced a concept known as AFGO – Another Fortunate Growth Opportunity. This concept suggests that even in the face of unfortunate or traumatic events, we can find opportunities for growth and transformation. It acknowledges that difficult situations and challenges can be used as stepping stones to a better, more resilient self.

Embracing the Process

Embracing the AFGO concept means walking through the process of identifying and challenging the messages that traumatic events leave behind. It involves recognizing the damaged aspects of oneself, bringing them to the light, and caring for them with compassion and understanding. Instead of allowing trauma to weaken us, we can find strength in the midst of adversity and extract meaning from our experiences.

Seeking Support

For those who find themselves in difficult circumstances, particularly within abusive relationships, Dr. Hunt extends an invitation to seek support and guidance. She believes that these challenging moments in life can serve as powerful opportunities for personal growth and transformation. It is through sharing our experiences and working through the associated trauma that we can turn adversity into an impetus for positive change.


In a world where adversity and trauma are all too prevalent, the concept of turning opposition into opportunity holds profound significance. Dr. Lynne’ Hunt’s insights from the Marriage Recovery Center shed light on the incredible power our thoughts and experiences hold in shaping our lives. By acknowledging the messages left by trauma, confronting them, and adopting the AFGO mindset, individuals can strengthen their resilience, rebuild their self-worth, and find meaning in their experiences. The journey from opposition to opportunity is challenging, but with the right support and mindset, it is not only possible but transformative.

To learn how we can help, reach out to us at (206) 219-0145 or info@marriagerecoverycenter.com to speak with a Client Care Specialist

Also read: Does Labeling People as Narcissists Help them Heal?

About Dr. Hawkins:

The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts on narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.

Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships.

He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse. Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship.

In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, you’ll learn about the lesser known forms of abuse, including covert abuse, reactive abuse, spiritual abuse, secondary abuse, relationship trauma and much more.


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