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Labeling People as Narcissists

Does Labeling People as Narcissists Help them Heal?

Diagnoses serve an essential purpose in our field because they lead patients and clients to the right treatments. But at the same time, it’s important to acknowledge that reducing people to their diagnoses can also be harmful, especially when these labels are given in times of emotional distress. Dr. David Hawkins recently discussed the implications of labeling people as narcissists or assigning any other psychological label.

Labels, not necessarily diagnoses, are often given at a person’s lowest point, and they can follow them around even after they’ve gotten better. Worse—these labels may even become self-fulfilling prophecies. While it’s human nature to categorize people in order to understand and relate to them, we don’t allow them the opportunity to change and grow when we put them in boxes. We must use labels sparingly, and let people become more than our descriptions and judgments of them.

Does Labeling People as Narcissists Help Them Heal?

In a world where labels are as common as everyday conversations, the labels we assign to others can often be reductionistic and limiting. Dr. David Hawkins, the director of the Marriage Recovery Center, recently discussed the implications of labeling people as narcissists or assigning any other psychological label. He highlighted the need to examine the impact of such labels on individuals and the potential hindrance they pose to healing and personal growth.

The Power and Pitfalls of Labels

Labels have their place in the world of psychology and mental health. They serve as diagnostic tools, helping professionals communicate effectively and understand the issues at hand. However, as Dr. Hawkins astutely pointed out, labeling someone as a narcissist or any other psychological condition can be detrimental to their overall well-being.

  1. Reductionism: Reducing People to Labels

When we label someone, we reduce them to that label and its definition. This act of reductionism can be limiting and dehumanizing. Nobody wants to be defined solely by their flaws or moments of difficulty. Imagine being labeled a “narcissist” because of a self-centered moment in your life. It’s not a title anyone would embrace willingly.

  1. Sticky Labels: The Persistence of Labels

Labels often stick with individuals long after the challenging moments or behaviors that led to their assignment. They become ingrained in people’s minds, making it difficult for them to break free from the constraints these labels impose.

  1. Our Desire to Be More: Beyond the Label

At the core of this issue lies the universal desire to be seen as more than our worst moments. None of us wish to be defined solely by our mistakes, character flaws, or psychological struggles. We yearn to be recognized for the potential for growth and change that resides within us.

The Role of Labels in Mental Health

Labels can play an essential role in the realm of mental health, diagnosis, and treatment. They facilitate communication and help individuals understand their issues. However, it’s crucial to use labels sparingly and thoughtfully, recognizing that they have a significant impact on how we perceive and treat others.

  1. The Impact of Labeling on Treatment

Some research suggests that the way we label someone can influence how we treat them. If we label someone as a narcissist, we may be more likely to perceive and treat them in ways that align with this label, potentially reinforcing negative behaviors.

  1. The Need for a Broader Perspective

While labels can be helpful for diagnosis and initial understanding, it’s important to remember that they do not define an individual’s entire identity. People are complex and multidimensional, and they possess the capacity for growth and change. It’s crucial to see beyond the label and recognize the potential for transformation.

Promoting Growth Beyond Labels

Dr. Hawkins encourages us to think beyond labels and to offer individuals the chance to grow beyond the definitions we assign them. Instead of merely categorizing someone as “selfish” or “narcissistic,” we should consider asking, not demanding, them to be seen in a new light.

  1. Inviting Change

Inviting change and personal growth is more powerful than imposing labels. By giving people the opportunity to change and evolve, we open the door to positive transformations.

  1. Noticing Positive Changes

Instead of focusing solely on past behaviors or labels, we should acknowledge and celebrate positive changes in individuals. This approach can be highly motivating and uplifting, fostering a supportive environment for healing and personal growth.


The act of labeling individuals as narcissists or any other psychological condition should be done thoughtfully and sparingly. While labels have their place in the world of mental health and diagnosis, they should not define an individual’s entire identity. We must recognize the potential for growth and change within every person and offer them the opportunity to evolve beyond the labels we assign them.

Ultimately, the goal should be to create an environment where positive change is nurtured and celebrated. Healing and personal growth are possible for everyone, and it’s our responsibility to support and encourage individuals on their journey to becoming the best versions of themselves. Let us be cautious with labels, embrace the complexity of human nature, and strive to help others heal and grow beyond their limitations.

To learn how we can help, reach out to us at (206) 219-0145 or info@marriagerecoverycenter.com to speak with a Client Care Specialist

Also read: How to Recover your Marriage after an Affair

About Dr. Hawkins:

The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts on narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.

Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships.

He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse. Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship.

In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, you’ll learn about the lesser known forms of abuse, including covert abuse, reactive abuse, spiritual abuse, secondary abuse, relationship trauma and much more.


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