Sex and the Broken Relationship

How does sex fit into the picture when the relationship is broken and hurting? What about during separation or divorce? On one hand, we’re taught that sex is a very private, personal matter where you can decide what works for you; what you do in the privacy of your own home is up to you. Our culture certainly promotes detaching sex from relationships, claiming it’s not hurting anybody, especially if it’s consensual.
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Are you Emotionally Wounded by your Mate?

Are you feeling unloved in your marriage? Do you seek confirmation regularly from your spouse that he or she still loves you? Do you ever feel unheard when you share these insecurities with your mate? Does this make you feel even more wounded? Could the way you are communicating your feelings to your spouse be causing defensiveness in him/her We often see couples at the Marriage Recovery Center who are in tremendous pain, and in their pain tend to throw accusations at their spouse.  We hear such statements as “you don’t love me anymore” or “you care more about your
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Sexual Addiction and Marriage: treatment

Has reality finally set in that your spouse has a pornography or sexual addiction? Are you feeling hopeless that your spouse can or will change? There is hope for change…if you require it!  How do I require change, you ask? You must create a crisis from the Sexual Addiction to ensure change occurs… You have been betrayed at the deepest level by your spouse. Your self worth and ability to trust has surely been impacted.  This addiction and his/her acting out MUST STOP.  There must be a critical conversation with your spouse that your marriage is BROKEN until he/she gets
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Sexual Addiction in Marriage: The Discovery

Have you just discovered your spouse on the internet viewing pornography? Or even worse, have you found evidence of your mate soliciting others for sex? If so, are you feeling overwhelmed with betrayal? Do you feel foolish that you were oblivious to his/her addiction? Disgusted that you are married to someone with such darkness? Are you wondering if you can ever trust him/her again? Understand that these feelings are very normal after discovering such betrayal from the person you loved and committed your life to. Understand that your spouse has NOT set out to intentionally hurt you. Rather, he/she is
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