Lee Kaufman

Life & Relationship Coach

Over the last 20 years, I have worked with people on healing nearly every aspect of their lives, from the physical, to the emotional, to the intellectual. Prior to that, I spent over a decade in traditional finance roles and as an entrepreneur, so I understand first-hand the pressures and rigors of our modern-day life.

Now, after more than 2000 hours with MRC clients, I also know very well the destruction that narcissism and emotionally abusive behavior can cause, as well as the most effective ways to heal and move beyond this limited and reactionary behavior.

I counsel “like a good grandmother”, being tender and loving when the time calls for it and firm and demanding when the time calls for it.

My work is focused on three main principles:

  • Connection: The beginning of our work is to build an open and honest relationship that cultivates the trust necessary to identify the core issues holding you back from being the best version of yourself. This is me learning about you and you learning about me.
  • Intellectual Understanding: I’ll introduce proven ideas and methodologies that will help you see your story differently and empower you to make healthier choices in your thinking, your behavior, and your communication.
  • Emotional Understanding: I’ll help you learn how to understand your emotions (including what creates them in the first place), how to self-regulate when you are overwhelmed, and how to be connected to your most authentic self (beyond knee-jerk reactions, stress, and anxiety).

By creating an honest, human connection, I help you to calm down and see your unhealthy, and sometimes even destructive, patterns for what they are—simply patterns left over from early childhood programming and trauma. Then, through a clear and fresh approach, I lay out a path, one doable and manageable step at a time, so you can bring forward healthy change.

Coaching Rates

Mini Intensive (3 hour session)$350
2-day Personal Intensive$2610
3-day Marriage Intensive$3770
Hourly Sessions$145
Marriage Evaluation Package$350
10 Hour Package$1300
Please note that all discounted packages are non-refundable and will expire after one year of purchase.

Recent Articles by Lee Kaufman

5 Ways to Navigate Holiday Conflict

Very few of us like to admit it, but the holidays aren’t always the most wonderful time of the year for everyone. Even so, we are expected to be cheerful and merry. If you don’t find yourself looking forward to the holidays because of the stress and conflict that it brings, you’re not alone. Many people tend to feel additional strain on their relationships around the holidays for a number of reasons, including holiday spending and numerous social and family obligations. You don’t have to fall victim to the same patterns of conflict and strife you’ve faced in the past. Understanding the causes and how you can better handle the stress can put the merry, jolly, and happy back into your holidays. Unwrap the reason for the conflict and gift yourself with the tools to deal with it! If you’ve ever wondered why relationships (whether it’s spouses, siblings, relatives or friends) tend to become particularly strained around the holidays, the answer is simple: the holidays present unique circumstances and expectations that can magnify friction, stress, and conflict. In fact, most people juggle several holiday friction points, which can make it difficult to hold it all together, let alone be jovial. Common Holiday Conflict Points Here are some common friction points that tend to surface during the holidays and some tips to mitigate conflict. 1. Holiday Spending One of the biggest stressors around the holidays is spending. This is no surprise since money is one of the top sources of conflict in relationships. Holidays bring a lot of extra expenses, including gifts, holiday cards, family photos, decorations, extravagant foods for the big family feast, and new clothes for all the holiday parties. As the expenses add up, so does the likelihood of a disagreement on how much money should be spent and on what. To avoid spending friction, sit down with your spouse, make a list of anticipated expenses, and agree on a budget before beginning your holiday spending. This will ensure you’re both on the same page. Be sure to communicate if an unexpected expense comes up and discuss whether or not you can afford it. Remember that avoiding dealing with the issue will not make it go away and is more likely to result in greater conflict later. Being able to have an honest conversation with your significant other about the state of your finances, as well as your feelings about your financial habits, is crucial for a healthy relationship. 2. House Guests In today’s world, spending the holidays with your extended family often requires traveling and staying with relatives or hosting relatives in your home. This creates the potential for multiple friction points. Maybe your in-laws say things that bring up uncomfortable emotions, or maybe the pressure of having a perfectly clean house and being the perfect host leaves you stressed and overwhelmed. What can you do to reduce tension and recapture the joy of the holidays when confronted with reduced privacy and unsolicited input from relatives? First, set boundaries for the length of time that the guests will stay. This gives you the ability to say to yourself, “It will only be one more hour” or “One more day.” Many people are unsure of how to broach the topic of set departure times, but it can be as simple as stating the start and end time when you first extend the invitation, so guests know when the event is expected to end. Second, make time for self-care. Just because your in-laws are staying at your house, doesn’t mean you have to devote every waking moment to be with them. For example, if going to the gym is part of your daily routine, stick to it. You can also excuse yourself to go to bed a bit earlier to read, journal, spend time with your significant other, or anything else that will help you decompress. 3. The Pressure of Perfection So many people feel an immense amount of pressure to plan and orchestrate the perfect holiday celebration. This pressure can quickly turn from cheer to stress and anxiety. Be wary of falling into the comparison trap and examine your motives—how much of what you are doing is simply to impress others and not what really makes you happy? Set realistic expectations and do not spread yourself too thin. Talk over your plans with your spouse or family member. Together, prioritize what matters most to you and what you think you can realistically manage. Then . The hustle and bustle of holiday shopping, parties, and house guests can lead you to feel out of control. The more you plan ahead and ask for help when needed, the less stress you will find yourself under. And remember to keep things in perspective. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t find the perfect gift or everything on your list doesn’t get done. Don’t dwell on it; let it go. Finally, forgive and forget mishaps. At the end of the day, perfection is impossible, so just do your best and remind yourself to not dwell on minor hiccups in the day.  4. Family Conflict At times, conflict between family members is inevitable. But knowing how to manage the conflict without losing your temper is critical. Whether it be opposing political views or a deep-seated family conflict like perceived favoritism, holiday celebrations are not the time nor the place to seek resolution for these issues. If you find a family member is bringing up a topic that is likely to result in tension and arguments: Choose not to engage Walk into another room for a few moments to regain your composure Ask to defer the conversation for another time and suggest a new topic 5. Spousal Resentment Often one spouse feels like they’re doing all the work to make the holidays a success. If you find yourself feeling like you’re doing all the work, set aside a time to talk with your spouse and ask for help. Do not let

Defining Emotional Abuse, Part 3: Using Anger as Weaponry

“Emotional abuse” often feels like a heavy and serious accusation, especially when combined with the words “anger” and “weaponry.” Yet living in an emotionally abusive relationship takes a heavy toll on your mental and physical health and your self-esteem, not to mention the relationship itself. Maybe you’ve wondered if your relationship is emotionally abusive. Your partner’s actions are hurtful, but are they bad enough to be considered abuse? One of the most harmful and insidious aspects of emotional abuse is that it can be difficult to recognize. This article will help you better understand what emotional abuse is, and help you recognize if you’re in a toxic and unhealthy relationship with an abuser.

How To Navigate a Mid-Life Crisis Properly

It was Socrates who famously said that the “unexamined life is not worth living”. So is a mid-life crisis just bound to happen to everyone at some point in their lives?  Many of us get to a season in life where we begin to struggle and question everything—who we are, why we’re here, and how to create a life worth living. While some people think that mood and perspective are all a choice, perhaps sometimes we are at the mercy of life’s natural phases and chapters that are, believe it or not, seemingly hard-wired into our biology. During certain times, we are almost forced to go deeper to find our truth in order to move on into the later chapters of life more elegantly.  But to those around us who bear witness to this process, it can certainly appear that we’re not ourselves. It may look like we’re acting out in ways that are confusing and sometimes completely opposed to our prior belief systems and expected behavior.  Just like a mid-life crisis would look.

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