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Truths About Narcissism

Truths About Narcissism and Emotional Abuse

It seems everyone these days has something to say about narcissism. How do you know what’s true and what’s false? Dr. Hawkins has been working with both perpetrators and victims of narcissistic abuse for decades. He’s an expert who has written and spoken extensively on this topic and in this video, he wants to offer you some truths about narcissism and emotional abuse.

Truths About Narcissism and Emotional Abuse

Narcissism and emotional abuse are complex and deeply damaging phenomena that affect many relationships. In this article, we will explore the truths about narcissism, its roots, and the possibility of change. We will also discuss how healing can be achieved for both victims and abusers. Despite the severity of these behaviors, there is hope for transformation and growth. Let’s dive into the truths surrounding narcissism and emotional abuse.

The Developmental Roots of Narcissism

Narcissists are often emotionally underdeveloped individuals who failed to learn healthy relational skills during their formative years. Julie Hall, in her article, suggests that narcissists may be developmentally arrested at a young age, typically between two to four years old. This developmental halt may result from disrupted attachment with primary caregivers or trigger a genetic predisposition towards narcissistic adaptations. As a consequence, narcissists struggle to integrate a stable sense of identity and self-esteem, leading them to remain primitively egocentric throughout their lives.

The Possibility of Change

While narcissistic abuse can cause severe harm to victims, there is hope for change. Emotional abuse is often a result of learned behavior, which implies that it can be unlearned. By initiating an intervention and addressing the dysfunctional thinking and attitudes that reinforce narcissistic traits, individuals may have a chance to break the cycle of abuse. An essential component of change is the confrontation of character traits, leading to a breakthrough that encourages personal growth and transformation.

Recognizing the Spectrum of Narcissism

Narcissism exists on a spectrum, and not every person exhibiting narcissistic traits has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). It is essential not to rush into diagnosing someone as having NPD. Instead, understanding the extent of narcissistic traits can help tailor interventions and approaches for healing. Not all narcissistic individuals are untreatable, and with the right intervention, change can be possible.

The Complexity of Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is a slow and steady degradation of another person’s self-esteem, often occurring covertly, making it challenging to recognize. The abuser exerts power and control over the victim through manipulation, gaslighting, humiliation, and denigration. It can be severely damaging and can lead to silent suffering for the victim. It is crucial to identify emotional abuse and intervene effectively to break free from its detrimental effects.

The Healing Process

The healing process for victims of narcissistic and emotional abuse involves establishing new and healthy boundaries. Victims need their own healing space to recover from trauma and emotional distress caused by the abuse. Simultaneously, the abuser must engage in individual treatment, taking responsibility for their actions, and working on their own issues. The healing together process involves both partners doing their work separately and intentionally reconciling if both want to salvage the relationship.

A Comprehensive Approach to Healing

To address the complex issues of narcissism and emotional abuse, a comprehensive approach is necessary. This approach includes understanding the impact of trauma, debunking myths and misinformation surrounding narcissism, and unraveling the dynamics of couples in conflict. It also involves addressing secondary abuse that may occur when well-meaning individuals offer misguided counsel. Furthermore, recognizing the physical impact of emotional stress is essential for overall healing.


Narcissism and emotional abuse can inflict significant harm on individuals and relationships. However, it is crucial to remember that abusive behavior is often learned and can be unlearned. Interventions and treatment that promote accountability, confrontation, and empathy can lead to personal growth and transformation for narcissistic individuals.

Healing from emotional abuse requires setting healthy boundaries and seeking individual healing for both victims and abusers. By addressing the root causes of narcissism and emotional abuse, we can pave the way for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

To learn how we can help, reach out to us at (206) 219-0145 or info@marriagerecoverycenter.com to speak with a Client Care Specialist

Also read: The Process of Healing

About Dr. Hawkins:

The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts on narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.

Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships.

He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse. Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship.

In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, you’ll learn about the lesser known forms of abuse, including covert abuse, reactive abuse, spiritual abuse, secondary abuse, relationship trauma and much more.


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