We’ve all heard the pre-flight instruction, “in the event of a loss of cabin pressure, air-masks will drop from the overhead compartment. You should put yours on first before helping others.” Intuitively we know this makes sense, and we probably even do it on airplanes when a crisis calls for it. So then why do we so often forget this very sentiment in so many other areas of our life?
Byron Katie, the self-help guru, often says “there are three types of business in this world, my business, your business, and God’s business, and who is living your life when you’re in someone else’s business?”
At the Marriage Recovery Center, we often see one partner spending all their energy trying to help the other become aware of their issues or limitations, get them educated about possible help, and even try to get them better.
Does this sound like you?
If so, you may want to consider that while you have become so hyper-focused on someone else and their process, you may very well have lost any meaningful connection with yourself.
Getting Some Clarity
It is for these very reasons and so many more that the Marriage Recovery Center exists to help you. We are here to support you and your family in your healing process, and to most importantly help you to:
- Reconnect with yourself so that you become whole again and do have something to give others when the time is right.
- Learn how to communicate your feelings, especially during times of conflict, which is really the only way our partners, family, and friends can ever really hear us.
- Get some honest perspective, not one clouded by the entirety of past events, so that you can move forward into a new possibility.
We can work with your spouse too if he or she is open and willing. But in the meantime, don’t you owe it to yourself to find the kind of peace and clarity that comes from your own willingness to be open, honest, and most importantly vulnerable, about what you want for yourself?
We offer a many programs and services that cater to individuals in need of a breakthrough. Call us in the office at 206.219.0145 or view our counseling programs page to learn more about your options.