The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Men
Sharmen Kimbrough discusses the impact of being in a relationship with a female narcissist. She also shares some ways that you can begin to heal from narcissistic or emotional abuse.
How Is It to Be In a Relationship With a Female Narcissist?
The impact of narcissism and emotional abuse in relationships can be devastating. In this article, we will delve into the dynamics of being in a relationship with a female narcissist. From the characteristics of narcissism to the effects on the victim, we will explore the challenges faced and the potential for healing and restoration.
Narcissism, often used as a buzzword, refers to individuals who are deeply self-absorbed, self-serving, and lack empathy. They view others as mere extensions of themselves, to be used for their own benefit. Being in a relationship with a female narcissist means losing a sense of self, feeling consumed by their demands, and being subjected to their control. The focus becomes a constant need for validation and adhering to their agenda, leaving little room for genuine connection or personal growth.
The Spectrum of Narcissism
There is a spectrum of narcissistic behavior, ranging from overt animosity and toxic grandiosity to covert manipulation. In both cases, the victim is constantly made to feel inadequate, as if they can never measure up. Belittlement and devaluation become the norm, leading to isolation, disconnection, and high levels of stress. The subtle manipulation employed by covert narcissists can be particularly insidious, leaving the victim questioning their own worth and struggling to trust their own thoughts and feelings.
The Emotional Toll
Living in a relationship with a female narcissist takes a significant toll on one’s emotional well-being. The constant message that you have nothing valuable to offer and that your opinions and emotions are foolish or insignificant creates a deep sense of isolation. The emotional effects may manifest as fear, anxiety, depression, complacency, insomnia, and even symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Victims often find themselves reflecting the abusive behavior, perpetuating a cycle of self-doubt and confusion.
Struggling with Identity and Purpose
A crucial question that arises in these relationships is whether one has what it takes to be a good partner, leader, lover, parent, or spouse. However, the narcissistic dynamics continually undermine any sense of self-worth or competence. The result is a profound disconnection from one’s true identity and purpose. Feelings of being stuck, numb, and devoid of hope permeate the victim’s daily life, leaving them barely able to survive each day.
Rebuilding and Restoring
Despite the immense challenges, there is hope for healing and reclaiming one’s sense of self. Taking the first step toward recovery involves acknowledging the harm inflicted and understanding how the relationship has changed you. It is important to document your own perceptions of the harm, loss, and changes experienced. This exercise serves as a starting point to rebuild, regather, and reconstruct the silenced and squashed parts of your identity.
Seeking Support and Restoration
Rebuilding oneself requires support and guidance. It is essential to reach out to professionals who can help navigate the chaos and assist in finding a path forward. Seeking counseling or therapy sessions can provide a safe space to untangle the complexities of the relationship, gain clarity, and begin the journey toward redemption and restoration.
Being in a relationship with a female narcissist can have a profound impact on one’s emotional well-being, sense of self, and overall outlook on life. Recognizing the dynamics of narcissism and understanding the effects it has on the victim is crucial for healing and rebuilding. By seeking support and working through the aftermath of the relationship, it is possible to regain a sense of identity, reclaim personal agency, and find hope for a healthier future.
About Dr. Hawkins:
The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts on narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.
Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships.
He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse. Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship.
In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, you’ll learn about the lesser known forms of abuse, including covert abuse, reactive abuse, spiritual abuse, secondary abuse, relationship trauma and much more.