When facing conflicting opportunities, he/she considers other’s feelings and preferences and even defers to them.
He/she insists on agreement with his/her opinions, perceptions or desires.
He/she tells others what they should feel, think or want.
Others consider the significant other to be caring, kind and generous toward others.
When facing conflict, especially with the significant other, he/she manages his/her emotions and seeks solutions benefiting all.
The significant other gives agreement/permission/acceptance and does not punish the other person for doing what he/she agreed upon.
He/she is easily offended or takes issues personally.
He/she is open, receptive, and makes it easy to give critical feedback.
He/she blames others for his/her personal choices or behaviors.
He/she receives critical feedback and makes behavioral and attitude changes accordingly.
When he/she enters the house, the atmosphere becomes more tense and anxious.
He/she values other people.
He/she is self-aware, noticing when they are open and receptive and when they SHIFT to being closed and defensive, making healthy choices, such as the use of time outs.
He/she is pleasant and cooperative in public and the same in private.
He/she withholds affection or his/her presence when unhappy with his/her partner/ children/ close friends.
He/she sees his/her need to change, seeking to change and grow when concerns are brought to him/her and holds himself/herself accountable for that change.
He/she insists on agreement with his/her opinions, perceptions or desires.
He/she is willing to seek professional help for changes needed.
He/she is able to name and share feelings effectively.
He/she overtly or covertly controls the family finances.
He/she exhibits a "Godly sorrow" for any wrongdoing, takes responsibility for failures, and apologizes easily and completely.
He/she sulks, pouts or hold grudges when conflict arises.
He/she is considered an open, flexible and resilient person.
Others can talk about concerns with him/her easily, quickly and without fear of an emotional reaction.
He/she makes allowances for other’s differences.
He/she uses the private or intimate things his/her significant other has shared with him/her inappropriately.
He/she always treats others with kindness and respect, honoring and protecting their boundaries.
He/she shares feelings openly, freely, at the appropriate time and without judgment, promoting intimacy and closeness.
His/her significant other/children/close friends avoid agitating him/her.
He/she offers critical feedback with respect, dignity and sensitivity.
He/she intimate relationships, especially with his/her significant other, are marked by emotional stability and friendliness.
He/she denies responsibility for others’ feelings and impressions.
He/she presents an accurate view of his/her mate to others.
He/she honestly and accurately admits to personal failings.
Others consider him/her to be a humble and sincere individual.
His/Her mate considers him/her to have a high degree of empathy and compassion.
He/she expects or demands loyalty even when his/her decisions are problematic, or his/her behavior is immature or damaging.
He/she presents versions of stories and relationship histories in biased or distorted views to make himself/herself look better.
He/she shares concerns in an assertive and respectful manner.
He/she establishes and respects boundaries, embracing consequences to boundary violations.
