It Takes a Breakdown to Have a Break Through

“My husband is NEVER going to change! He keeps promising things will be different, but words are all I hear.” I cannot even begin to tell you how often I hear this from women calling or emailing the Marriage Recovery Center.  Countless women continue to struggle in dysfunctional marriages because they feel completely hopeless to change the problems in their relationship. The problem I find is that couples are content to be comfortably miserable in their relationship.  They are not happy at all BUT the man continues to function in his same old patterns, despite constant reminders that he must change, and
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Are You In a Reactive Relationship?

The majority of the couples that come to the Marriage Recovery Center are in a reactive state of mind. They’ve come to a place where they are utterly stuck in a position of feeling they are right and their partner is wrong. I see these couples as defensive, angry, stubborn, and downright self-righteous. They act this way due to what is irritating them at their core, but are unaware of how to talk about these feelings. They often believe that the only way for the marriage to change is if their partner changes. As a therapist, I typically hear partners building
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Can Your Marriage Survive an Affair?

Have you experienced an affair in your marriage? Do you feel hopeless that your marriage will survive this trauma? Do you find yourself to be bitter and angry? If so, you are not alone! We see many many couples at the Marriage Recovery Center who have just experienced an affair in their marriage.  We see both men and women who have been unfaithful, but for the purpose of this blog I will be referring to the husband as the mate who was unfaithful. It is incredibly common to see a wife who comes to a Marriage Intensive with a lot of
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