Healing Broken Agreements

Trust is often taken for granted. We rely on trust as foundation for every relationship. Consider with me for a moment the power of trust and the necessity of making, and keeping, agreements. Agreements are sacred oaths and must be kept. What should happen if agreements are broken? How can one restore the relationship and begin the process of rebuilding trust? Consider these action steps—The 3 A’s of healing broken agreements.
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Getting to the Core

The armor we put on to shield ourselves actually weighs us down and prevents us from responding to the world in a healthy way. In our attempt to protect our emotions, we view life and relationships through a lens of fear and apprehension. There IS a better way to respond to the challenges you face in life and experience more fulfilling relationships as God intended. We call that process Getting To The Core.
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How She is Harmed

Abusive behavior is not always physical. Follow Dr. Hawkins through a case study that examins how husbands can develop patterns of thinking to avoid seeing themselves as they are and owning their hurtful actions towards their wives. We will walk through some of the forms of passive violence that many men use against women.
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Marriage Counseling…Differently

I must confess that I’m fondly attached to Apple products—the iMac, iPhone, iPad, iPod and most likely soon the iWatch. I don’t think I’m addicted to technology, but I do like how this company comes out with cool ideas and products. They don’t just come out with cool things, they come out with cooler things to replace their older, cool things. Yes, I’m hooked! Now, you may be wondering what does any of my gadgetry attachment have to do with Marriage Counseling? Reflecting on my thirty-plus years of Marriage Counseling I realized that I’ve been stuck. I’ve been doing Marriage Counseling the same way I did
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Myths of Narcissistic Personality Disorder It all started so well. You were captivated by his attention, enamored with his charm, engulfed in his persistence to have a relationship with you. But the thorns began to show fairly quickly on the rose. Blue skies became cloudy. With every concern of yours came excuses from him, rationalizations and the ever-popular blame-shifting. Now you are confused and wondering what hit you. You wonder about leaving the relationship, but have mixed feelings. You care about him. His good traits are still good. You have invested time, energy and love, and things are not as
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When You’re Asked to Leave!

There is little things more painful than being asked to leave your home. Home—a place where you hang your hat and coat, store your personal belongings and, of course, visit with your family. Home—a place of memories, both good and bad. This mixture of experiences creates an even more powerful bond. Most of us want to “stick it out” and make things work, no matter the circumstances. But, what do we do when the pendulum swings and we are asked to leave. Perhaps worse, we are told to leave. Flooded with emotion, we can hardly think straight. Flooded with emotion,
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Think It’s Over? Think Again: Therapeutic Healing Process

There are times when, after repeated traumatic experiences, hearts finally close. We pull away from our mate, one wound at a time. We essentially divorce our mate, perhaps leading to ultimate separation and apparent irreconcilability. Yet, the story does not have to end there. Brokenness and distance can be bridged, one listening ear after another. The bridge of hopelessness can be spanned by a soft word, a kindness, a gentle act leading to the faint prospect of hope. When a couple finds themselves at odds, one pushed away from the other, there is still much that can be done. A
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Marriage Therapy in Seattle – Men Can Change

Is Marriage Therapy the Answer you Seek? I have written extensively about women who are intensively frustrated with men, and moreover feel exasperated and at times hopeless about the prospect of her man’s ability to change. I want to offer hope—lot’s of it. As I continue to write about this topic, many women (and some men!) have responded. Many indicate they were glad I finally understood what they have been experiencing for years. Instead of being told to “hang in there,” or “keep on praying,” I offered counsel concerning setting healthy boundaries. Here are a few excerpts from responses sent
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Having an Affair: Broken Before the Infidelity Began

There is perhaps no greater pain than that of intimate betrayal by a mate. The one whom you’ve entrusted your life to, whom you’ve shared every intimate aspect of living with, now has shared those very aspects of their being with someone else—a place and part of them reserved exclusively for you. Having an affair, physical or emotional, is a betrayal of the worst kind, leaving us breathless, hopeless and with a loss of meaning. Perhaps your mate is having an affair with your best friend. Maybe it was a casual friendship on Facebook that went from friendly to familiar to failure.
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Overcoming Resistance to Marriage Counseling

Are you thinking, “There is no way he’ll agree to marriage counseling” Well, you’re not alone! “He doesn’t think we need marriage counseling,” “He says what happens behind closed doors is our business and besides, we’ve tried marriage counseling in the past and it didn’t work.” Feeling discouraged about your marriage? Praying for change in your husband and your marriage, but see things continuing to deteriorate? Things don’t change, we do! If we don’t make significant changes, our relationships won’t change.” – Dr. David Hawkins If you find yourself saying, “I know that if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’re going to
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